The number “4” repeats itself four times on the Seder night.  The famous time, no doubt is the part that deals with the duty of the father to relate and explain the Exodus to his sons and to answer their queries regarding this narrative. 

These sons, according to the Hagaddah, may be grouped into four classes – namely the wise, the wicked, the simpleton and the one who doesn’t know how to ask.

According to our Rabbis there are at least four different ways to explain and teach our children according to their understanding.  In every age, in every situation, we are asked to tell the story in a suitable way to the appropriate son but all children in a family must be treated as unique individuals. What is good and appropriate for one child might be a disaster for the next. Serious parenting demands that unique needs of each of the children be identified early in life, thus providing each child with the maximum opportunities to meet his or her potential. This is true regarding educating towards proper social behavior as well as cultivating ones spiritual dimension. In areas of strictness versus leniency and potential versus actual, the uniqueness of each and every individual child must be carefully considered. This is the Mt. Sinai educational mandate to every parent as given over by Moshe.